Sunday 08 May 2005
to blogroll or not to blogroll - who gives a flying mouse's doopah!?
Burningbird » Steve Levy, Dave Sifry, and NZ Bear: You are Hurting Us
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Bitch. Ph.D.: In defense of blogrolls
(HULLO PEOPLE - There's one simple way to avoid getting hurt - avoid hurtful people... there's one simple way to fight the silly ranking system - ignore it & make your own system!)
Burningbird » Steve Levy, Dave Sifry, and NZ Bear: You are Hurting Us
Not content to being the center of too many dialogs within weblogging, you also want to be the center of one discussion that, oddly enough, doesn’t center around you: being a weblogger who is not a male, or is not white, or both.
So you’ve perverted the discussion until it is all about you, effectively shutting it down, while making sure that the bits you so desperately need understand that their rightful place is forming a swarm about you.
You see, White Guys, it’s all about you. And you’ll do everything in your power to destroy even an effective conversation, unless it is all about you.
Of course they've perverted the discussion until it's all about them if they're narcissists... And I already previously noted the evidence of that awhile back.
Watermelon Punch, the Side-blog - 10 Mar 2005 | narcissist boys club - to link or not to link
Dr. Irene's Site : The Cyber Narcissist
The positive characteristics of the Net are largely lost on the narcissist. He is not keen on expanding his horizons, fostering true relationships, or getting in real contact with other people. The narcissist is forever the provincial because he filters everything through the narrow lens of his addiction. He measures others – and idealizes or devalues them – according to one criterion only: how useful they might be as Sources of Narcissistic Supply.
Burningbird » Steve Levy, Dave Sifry, and NZ Bear: You are Hurting Us
If I had a wish right now, I would wish one thing: that we remove all of our blogrolls and take down the EcoSystem and the Technorati 100 and all of the other ‘popularity’ lists.
The idea of trying to get rid of blog ranking by trying to get other people dismantle systems or delete their blogrolls seems terribly flawed. Probably because it's all about trying to control other people - which is frought with insurmountable obstacles.
Bitch. Ph.D.: In defense of blogrolls
But it seems to me that the Big Boys are not gonna dump their blogrolls. And if the women and progressives and people who care about this shit dump theirs, it just makes the problem worse, not better. The solution is not to take away those links from the small, personal, feminist, progressive blogs--because the ranking system isn't going anywhere. Making ourselves and our allies invisible out of protest is self-defeating.
Exactly - any time you base your own survival on changing other people's opinions or behaviour, it's self-defeating.
If you don't like the ranking systems... Opt out of them if you can, like Clancy did...
Opt out of ranking! | CultureCat
If you don't like the hierarchy and rank of the 'sphere, how about opting out of the ranking systems? I just did: Go to the Truth Laid Bear's Ecosystem, search for your blog, under "Rank" click "request a change to this blog," then check the radio button that says "Remove this blog from the Ecosystem." It will then give you some code to paste into your header tags.
This seems a more appropriate way to protest hierarchy than getting rid of one's blogroll, IMHO.
And to further protest the hierarchy... I have an even better suggestion...
IGNORE those you believe are dominating the heirarchy! Don't read them, don't pay attention to them, don't link to them, don't mention them, don't engage with them.
Because if you do any of that - you're right in 'The Arena' with them. And if you're not willing to fight to the death and bludgeon them ruthlessly (because you're against that type of thing), or, if you simply don't have the weapons they have... You're wasting your life... You're wasting your breath. Why bother?
I'm speaking as someone who doesn't read any high ranking popular white male blogs. At least I don't think I do. I can't say for 100% certain because I don't pay attention to the rankings, so I might not even know who's popular and who's not.
And as an interesting note about how little I care about blogrolls, linking, and whatever... I actually know, in person, a white male blogger, in my area, who I link to, but he does NOT link to me. Maybe he's one of those narcissists who thinks links are extensions of himself or something to be withheld in some kind of silly nonsense power struggle.
Who cares?
I noticed it, took note of it, and of course consider it whenever I estimate my opinion of him.
But it hardly makes any difference in my life!
I have no idea why he doesn't link to me anymore, or if it has anything to do with anything, if it's contrived or not.
If he doesn't think my blog is worth linking to, or doesn't want to link because he thinks he's got something over on me... Well, I firmly believe that says more about him than it does about me anyway.
The guy's not popular anyway. So who the fuck cares? (Pardon my language.) And if he was popular, I still wouldn't give a flying rat's ass.
I'm not going to beg or badger someone to link to me. I'm not going to get all cocky, or obsequiously kowtow to someone for a link. That's just ridiculous.
It's sad enough that in our culture often narcissistic egocentricity pays off financially, and humility and kindness are virtues you generally hear about only in churches, temples, and religious & spiritual literature.
I find I am forced to be a pushy & arrogant bitch in order to get by in business, to survive... The hell if I'm going to engage in that nonsense on my own personal time in my social life... or god forbid on the internet.
My advice to anyone getting riled up about this debacle...
Don't throw pearls to swine!
Watermelon Punch, the Blog - 14 Mar 2005 | 'eure Perlen sollt ihr nicht vor die Säue werfen'
posted by Chloe | Sunday 08 May 2005 12:45 PM
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